Tangentially Speaking

Organic, revealing conversation with fascinating, freaky folks.
Ever wanted to hang with a dominatrix, comedian, famous health guru, or Italian prince? Here's your chance. Tangentially Speaking is dedicated to the idea that good conversation is organic, revelatory, and free to go down unexpected paths.

201 - ROMA 8

A man in his 30s starts to think he might be gay, a young couple wonder about seeing other people, a couple try to deal with a rape. Download link.

200 - Willem (Safari Guide, Namibia)

Willem (seated)

Willem (seated)

Willem was the guide on my 9-day tour of southern Africa. Over the course of our trip, I grew to know and like him. He's quiet, but runs deep, as you'll hear. He works for Wild Dog Safaris, based in Windhoek, Namibia. I did the 9 day Delta and Vic Falls trip, but they've got everything from day trips to month-long excursions. (I didn't get any discounts or anything in exchange for this. I just really liked Willem, so if you go, please tell them Willem brought in the business.) Special shout-out to my drunken comrades by the fire...

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Music: "Na Ye" by Toto Bono Luaka; "Nomvula" by Freshlyground; "Pygmy Lullaby" by Jan Garbarek.

Not a video, but a lovely version of the song.

NYU Steinhardt Jazz Interview Series at SubCulture in New York. Dr. David Schroeder interviews legendary musician Richard Bona.

199 - David Ley (Sexologist)

David, with the Great American Dick.

David, with the Great American Dick.

Here's David, chatting with Anderson Cooper, challenging the legitimacy of a sex addiction diagnosis, aired on January 26, 2012

David Ley is a sexologist, therapist, blogger at Psychology Today, and author of three important books that challenge mainstream views of human sexuality. Download this episode.

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The Myth of Sex Addiction
By David J. Ley PhD. Author of the forthcoming Ethical Porn For Dicks A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure
Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them
By David J. Ley PhD. Author of the forthcoming Ethical Porn For Dicks A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure

197 - Rivah Winter (Marine Biologist)

Rivah Winter is a marine biologist at the University of Miami. As of 2017, she'll be at the Frost Museum of Science. Together with Andrew Baker, she won the CappSci Inventors award in 2016 "for her work in developing a laboratory methods to increase coral resistance to bleaching events by promoting thermally tolerant symbionts," whatever the hell that means. I'm clearly out of my league in this one. Download this episode.

Music: "Free Ride," Edgar Winter Group.

Frost Museum of Science.

My conversation with Ginger, Rivah's grandmother.

195 - ROMA 7

In which I respond to a guy who's mystified at how so many people fail to see through the inanities of modern civilization. Download.

Music: "Fresh Blood," by The Eels; "Oh My God," by Michael Franti and Spearhead.

193 - ROMA 6

I consider the difference between appreciating something and wanting it, porn addiction, the importance of constructive crashing and burning in one's love life, and serve up a large dollop of troll chow. Download.

192 - Uncle Dan

That Dos Equis guy's role model must have been my uncle Dan. Has Mr. Dos Equis ever delivered babies? Has he piloted several types of planes all over North America? Has he been rolling in money and then seen it rolling away? Does he effortlessly charm women 30 years younger than him without so much as a hint of creepiness while laughing about two types of cancer and serious nerve damage from a motorcycle accident? Go on, Mr. Dos Equis, have another drink and listen to my uncle Dan's story. Download.

Music: "A Good American Life" and "Flag," by Ed Dupas.